How to survive a divorce from her husband?

How to survive a divorce from her husband? With a newborn baby in her arms

Girls, help. We had a son, we were waiting for him, but as soon as he was born we had a problem in choosing a name, they quarreled for a very long time and in the end he said call it what you want, I called it! Now he constantly reproaches me, forever I am to blame for everything and everywhere so that I will not do constantly bad.

Stopped approaching the child, really because of the name ??? He began to annoy that he was screaming, he began to say how he was for the * ball. It seems that the case is moving towards a divorce! How to survive this breakup? I love him so much ????

How the appearance of children affects family life

with the advent of a child, married life can change, sometimes in a most unexpected way. Now all the thoughts of the young mother are only about the baby, and she may be surprised at how with her whole being she responds to every cry of the newborn. In turn, the father may be surprised at the close ties that bind his wife and child. However, he may feel abandoned.

The birth of a first-born can cause a crisis in the relationship between husband and wife. Difficulties associated with raising children can reveal and deepen discrepancies in the views of spouses and their self-doubt.

DIFFICULTY 1: everything starts to revolve around the child.

All the time and all the thoughts of the mother belong completely to her baby. Caring for a child can bring her a feeling of deep satisfaction. And it may seem to her husband that they forgot about him. A wise husband will show love to his wife if he tries to find out how the birth of a child affects the physical and mental state of a woman. Then he will understand why his wife has sudden changes in mood. A prudent wife, for her part, will support her husband in a new role for him. She will patiently show him how to swaddle the baby or prepare a bottle for feeding, even if at first he will not succeed. TIP. Wives, if your husband does not care about the baby like you do, do not criticize him or redo the work after him. Praise him for what he does right. So you inspire confidence in him, and he will provide you with the necessary support. Husbands, give up unimportant things in order to help your wife as much as possible, especially in the first months after the birth of the baby.

DIFFICULTY 2: you are moving away from each other.

Many young parents are exhausted due to the fact that they often have to get up at night. Also, unforeseen problems can deprive them of strength. Therefore, it may be difficult for spouses to maintain a close relationship.

In addition, the husband may not understand that the pregnancy has greatly affected his wife physically and emotionally. The time and energy that they used to spend to satisfy each other's emotional and sexual needs now goes to the child. According to God's plan, children must finally leave their parental home. However, God expects that husband and wife, having become one flesh, will be together for life. TIP. Mom, try to sleep a little while your baby is sleeping. Then you will have the strength to pay attention to your husband. Dads, whenever possible, get up at night to feed or swaddle the baby. Then your wife will be able to rest. Constantly assure her of love by leaving notes, sending text messages or talking to her on the phone. Husbands and wives, take time to chat privately. Talk about each other, not just about the child. Keep a strong friendship, and then you will be more successful in coping with the difficulties of raising your baby.

DIFFICULTY 3: you have different views on parenting.

Perhaps the spouses notice that because of the difference in views on the upbringing of children, they have disagreements. Key to success: consult. TIP. Remember how your parents raised you, and decide what methods of education you would like to adopt from them, and which do not. Discuss your thoughts with your husband or wife